Ten years. 120 months. 520 weeks. 3,650 days. 87,600 hours. 5,256,000 minutes.
A decade.
By anyone’s standards, a significant length of time. Ten years ago today, my son Will was killed in an accident.
For those grieving the death of a child, time is a beguiling enemy. When the loss is fresh, time tantalizes you with the fact that your son was alive an hour ago, a day ago, a week ago. Irrational thoughts invade your mind. If I could go back, just a little bit, I could prevent this. But time stands in the way, immovable, implacable.
Time passes. It taunts you differently now. It reminds you how long it’s been since you’ve seen him, spoken to him, dropped him off at school, kissed him goodnight. Mostly time taunts you with the fact that it has moved on without him. And as time moves, it brings new troubles.
If problems were doled out in equal measure to all, people who lose a child would be exempt from lesser ones. Health issues, conflicts at work, and traffic tickets would pass us by. But this is just as much fantasy as believing, even for a moment, that you could travel back in time and save your child. Problems still arise, even for mourners with less stamina to meet them.
Bills still come due when money is tight. People still cut you off in traffic. Extra pounds creep up. Coworkers are rude. Plumbing fails. Pets die. Taxes.
The Bible has a lot to say about problems. It also has a lot to say about time. This morning, my verse-a-day Bible app sent me a verse that addresses both.
Sing the praises of the Lord, you his faithful people; praise his holy name.
For his anger lasts only for a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime;
Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.
Psalm 30: 4 – 5
Loss is always present. Grief doesn’t go away. But God promises that it won’t last forever. Rejoicing comes in the morning.
3,650 mornings have come and gone since Will died. The morning that brings rejoicing may not come for a very long time. But after ten years of living with grief, I’ve come to view time differently. I’m not ten years farther away from Will, I’m one day closer to seeing him again.
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Beautiful, Lisa!
I love how you celebrate your love and memories of Will. I do the same with my grandson, Grayson . (It’s hard to believe he would have been 13). We were blessed with 127 days and I would not trade a single one. I like you, look forward to our meeting again for eternity. In the meantime, we are blessed with the opportunity to love and be loved here on earth. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers especially on these days that tug at our heart as we wonder “what if?”
Cherish the days ahead with Ben and your sweet husband. I hope you are blessed with grandchildren one day as the joy and love they bring is like nothing you could ever imagine ❤️
Sending love and hugs 🤗
Lisa, you have a beautiful way of expressing your thoughts and feelings. As usual, I shed tears as I read what you have written about the loss of your amazing son, Will.
I will never forget the day your folks called us with the news of his accident. I’m thankful we could be there in OK to share in his service. We will forever remember Will. Love, Sue & Clari
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